How to sustain human dignity in a world that seems often to deny it?

Something I’ve been thinking about. I have all these realizations in my mind but when I try to translate them into words, I fail miserably. Perhaps, we’re not supposed to open our trap at all times. But then again, babbling is a pre-requisite to speech. Infants coo; toddlers babble, and one day, lo and behold, they say: BUY ME A CAR!

My husband pointed something out to me the other day, which I thought was amazing on his part. He's observed, that his lovely wife, tends to imitate the behavior of those around her. If someone is respectful, I’m respectful but if someone is mean I find ways to irritate. Sure, it’s ok to defend yourself but shouldn’t one be better than that? Shouldn’t one maintain her dignity instead of becoming an angry reactionary?

Dr. Sherman Jackson, in one of his lectures, gave the example of our Prophet (peace be upon him), how he never allowed the indignation of his oppressors to reduce him to their level. “We made some of you as a test, will you patiently persevere?” He stressed the need for Muslims to reach their higher selves, to maintain and sustain their dignity in these times of double -speak.

When you see life with its inherent higher purpose, instead through your ill-crafted lower self, you realize every agent in your life is placed there to refine your mettle. How am i helping another person by irritating them? am i irritating them because i want them to realize they're wrong or because they offend my values? Do i have any right to irritate another person?

Earlier I had listed my reasons for liking certain scholars, professors, and just average people. Dignity and tranquility were two ascpetcs of their persona. Now im wondering if dignity brings with it a certain something -patience, higher understanding, and connectedness with God - that makes people act a certain way?

Now imagine my shock at discovering the following verse recently even though I’ve been reading Quran translations since the early 1990’s:

“We have bestowed dignity on the progeny of Adam (laqad karramna bani Adama) ... and conferred on them special favours, above a great part of Our creation. (al-Isra’, 17:70)”

So We all our blessed by default, and not because mommy said so. (another idea confirmed)

Will continue to research this in my mind, meanwhile enjoy this excerpt from the first book i found on the subject:

Excerpt from Book:

Chapter One
The Qur’anic View of Human Dignity

"The Qur’anic vision of human dignity is manifested in various ways and in different contexts. To begin with, we read the direct and unqualified affirmation of the dignity of man in the following Qur’anic text, where God Most High declares:

We have bestowed dignity on the progeny of Adam (laqad karramna bani Adama) ... and conferred on them special favours, above a great part of Our creation. (al-Isra’, 17:70)

The text here is self-evident and comprehensive in its recognition of dignity for all human beings without limitations or qualifications of any kind. Thus according to al-Alusi, ‘everyone and all members of the human race, including the pious and the sinner, are endowed with dignity, nobility and honour, which cannot be exclusively expounded and identified. Ibn ‘Abbas has commented, however, that God Most High has honoured mankind by endowing him with the faculty of reason.’

Dignity in other words is not earned by meritorious conduct; it is an expression of God’s favour and grace. Mustafa al-Siba’i and Hasan al-Ili have similarly remarked that dignity is a proven right of every human being regardless of colour, race or religion. Ahmad Yusri has drawn the conclusion that ‘dignity is established for every human being as of the moment of birth’. Sayyid Qutb has similarly stated that dignity is the natural right of every individual. The children of Adam have been honoured not for their personal attributes or status in society, but for the fact that they are human beings. ‘Dignity is therefore the absolute right of everyone.’ Zuhayli has similarly noted that ‘dignity is the natural right (haqq tabi’i) of every human being. Islam has upheld it as such and made it a principle of government and a criterion of interaction (al-mu’amalah) among people.’ It is not permissible to violate the personal dignity of anyone, regardless of whether the person is pious or of ill-repute, Muslim or non-Muslim. Even a criminal is entitled to dignified treatment. For punishment is meant to be for retribution and reform, not indignity and humiliation. Most of these commentators have made reference, in addition to the clear text of the Qur’an, to the hadith that records the incident where the Prophet saw a funeral procession passing by; upon seeing it, he rose in respect and remained standing until one of his Companions informed him that the deceased person was a Jew. This intervention provoked the Prophet’s disapproval as he posed the question, ‘Was he not a human being?’ The Prophet, in other words, did not consider the religious following of the deceased person to have any bearing on his inherent dignity, which called for unqualified respect. Muhammad al-Ghazali has quoted Ibn Hazm to the effect that a Christian woman, Umm al-Harith bint Abi Rabi’a, died and the Prophet’s Companions took part in her funeral procession. Al-Ghazali then concluded that ‘we would like to see that our relations with other communities are founded on this kind of latitude (al-samaha). This is because we believe that Islam commands us to have good and peaceful relations with those who are not aggressive toward us’. The Qur’anic declaration under review has also prompted Weeramantry to observe that the Qur’an makes dignity intrinsic to the personality of every individual so that ‘no regime, however powerful, could take it away from him’. This inherent human dignity also ‘provides the basis of modern doctrines of human rights’.

The Qur’anic declaration of dignity for the whole of the human race in the foregoing ayah has, in another place, been more specifically endorsed with reference to the Muslims. The dignified status (al-izza) of the believers is thus expounded alongside that of God Most High and His Messenger, Muhammad:

And honour (al-izza) belongs to God, to His Messenger and the believers ....
(al-Munafiqun, 63:8).

On a more general note, the Prophet declared in a hadith that ‘people are God’s children and those dearest to God are the ones who treat His children kindly’.

The Qur’an and Sunnah normally refer to people as God’s servants (‘ibad Allah), but here they are elevated to the status of God’s beloved children, which naturally conveys a more dignified status.

In the physical world, according to the worldview of Islam, there is no place on earth holier than the House of God, the Ka’ba. Yet the Prophet drew the following parallel to express the extent of the dignity of the believers. The Prophet, while facing the Ka’ba, said:

You are most pure and most dignified, but by the One in whose hands Muhammad’s life reposes, the sanctity and honour of a believer, his life and his property, is far greater than yours in the eyes of God.

These clear affirmations of the dignity of man are in turn endorsed in a variety of other contexts in the Qur’an and Sunnah, one of which is the basic unity in the creation of mankind, and its equality in the eyes of the Creator."

The Dignity of Man - Mohammad Hashim Kamali